Monday, July 25, 2011

I need to clarify something

I'm big on positive thinking - and yeah I'm good at stating the obvious. A comment on my blog this week had my stomach churning though, suffice to say it's not for me to mention the details of why that comment was made.

What it did do was make me realise that here I am yapping on about the things we attract with our thoughts. The reality is that there are bad, no I'm going to rephrase that and say - shitty things which happen to good people.

Unfortunately all the positive thinking in the world can't stop the shitty things which happen to people. Some things happen as a result of shitty people (pardon my word usage but knowing the reason for this comment prompts my use of the word)

Positve thinking can certainly attract better things into our world and helps us better deal with the rotten things that happen, but it doesn't cure or fix everything. Speaking from my own experience, and yes I've had some shitty moments through my life and been through the depression and anxiety attacks, positive thinking has helped me gain control and attract better things.

I'm no expert, I don't understand half of what happens in this crazy old world but finding a way to step up and take control of your life is better than letting it knock you down and then sink in the boot while you are down. Positive action and one little step towards improving things is a step in the right direction towards a happier life.

I for one, never ever want to return to the depths of despair where I was too afraid to leave my home (not an easy task with a school aged child and a toddler). So that thought is always in the back of mind. The reality of how bad I felt during that time makes me continue to step out of my comfort zone, take a risk and make my life a better one to have.

Now when IT (and there's a story here about when IT came to visit me) knocks on my door I put out the do not disturb sign, because the truth is I'm leading the charge these days, not IT.

Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day


  1. It is sand tha some people make it hard for others to have a wonderful life becasue of their bad choices and how they can effect us. Great words of wisdom here on your post. Thank you for reminding us that a little positive thinking can help us.

  2. I so loved this post. While we have zero control over what happens we have 100% over how we react to it, how we feel about it etc. Way to go on stepping out of your comfort zone on a regular basis. Feels wonderful huh?

  3. I just read back thru the three posts and there were a lot of good points made. We can't control it all but we can control how we deal with it. I do believe practicing hope or expecting failure can sometimes have an affect on what comes our way. But you are right. In the end you are the one who controls how it affects you.

    I feel like that sounds kind of rambly but I'm going to hope with confidence that it makes sense : )

  4. I was looking for clarifying issues and I came across this blog.
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