Tuesday, June 5, 2012

Judgmental no more

We all do it, we all judge, we all think we can do better, be better, know better. I know I do it occasionally and yet I’m making a concerted effort to try and not do it as much

Social media outlets (don’t you love them) have gone into overdrive this week with the uproar surrounding tweets and comments about Chrissy Swan – you can Google it if you want because it’s everywhere.
I’m not going to bore you with all the details, suffice to say that Chrissy Swan is a minor Australian celebrity who’s not perfect, is normal like you and me and is being blasted left, right and centre for everything she is doing wrong in this life as a parent, a woman, and everything else she may do.

Honestly, I think the greatest sin she has committed is to actually ‘like’ herself and who she stands for. She is happy in her own skin, regardless of the judgments of others. People love to judge, condemn and ridicule someone who doesn’t fit into societies ‘norm’.
I applaud the girl for her belief in herself, her strength, and her choices. How many people ridicule others and judge others choices because for a small millisecond it makes us feel stronger and more powerful.

The cowardly twats who aren’t even game to put their names to comments are the ones who infuriate me the most. Social media makes everyone so brave when they can hide behind a keyboard and computer screen and lambast every other being. The pain lies in looking in the mirror at our own reflection and determining whether we actually like ourselves.
If you believe in something strongly enough then speak up and be heard and be brave enough to put your name to a comment. On the other hand if it’s all just to judge another person for their choices and to make yourself feel a little bit stronger, a little bit more special for a small moment in time, then save yourself the effort.

If all of us spent more time improving our own outlook and strengthening our own self esteem instead of bringing others down, then the world will be a happier place.
I’m working on polishing up my own reflection, what about you?

Cheers, Fi


  1. I had to look it up because I was unfamiliar with her. She looks like a lovely woman. I think people often run their mouths without thinking through. I know I have judged and I learned a powerful lesson about it with my oldest child. It calls to mind 'casting the first stone' or 'walking a mile in their shoes'.
    Something to remember.

  2. Great post Fi -- good commentary too!

  3. Wow, some strong words. LOL. Yeah, I dont see why so many people are just mean, rude, etc and then like you said post anonymously. Infuriates me. Whatever happened to Thou Shalt Not Judge. Until you walk a mile in my shoes....Great post.

  4. It is definitely easy to judge. Through my own experiences the last few months, though, I have come to realize that we are all just doing the best we can, the best we know how. My life would be easy to judge by people who didn't know the background. Heck, I even judged myself harshly until I found out there were deeper issues my family was dealing with. I agree that we need to reserve judgement of others. Judging ourselves is something we should do with a kind heart as well.


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