I had another crazy day at work today - just can't get it all done, between my boss and I we're doing the work of four people. The day just flies past. I'd intended to go to the hospital on the way home but left work late, was absolutely knackered and still had a heap of work to do tonight to finalise all the quiz stuff for the quiz night I'm organising on Friday night. So I figured I just didn't have enough energy to do it all.
Then my son called on the way home to see what time I was going to the hospital. The long and short of it, DIL has been having quite a few problems, hence she didn't go home today and is worse than she was yesterday. So despite being exhausted and telling son I wasn't going in. I re-routed my drive home and called by the hospital. You do what's most important and her and grandson are top of my list.
In essence they buggered up her epidural (after 5 attempts and the first one falling out) and have pierced the dura (fluid sack) surrounding her spine. I have done some heavy duty internet surfing in the last 24 hours to find out all about this. Basically it means she has what amounts to the worst hangover and migraine combined, no tolerance to light or noise whatsoever and is on three different sorts of painkillers (heavy duty ones) to help her. She can also only lie flat, all very easy things to do with a newborn baby - NOT!.
Tomorrow they want to do what's called a blood patch which means another epidural basically but where they inject her own blood into her back which clots and hopefully will fill the hole(s). Not a comfortable prospect for someone who a phobia of needles and is in unimaginable pain at the moment.
She is at least blessed with the most mellowed out, laid back baby in the world. I have never seen such an alert but relaxed baby in my life. This little fella knows his mummy is in a bad way and is acting accordingly. Barely a whimper since his birth despite the other screaming babies in rooms nearby. Nani Fi got to feed her boy tonight, which was a joy, but would be enjoyed more if it wasn't because DIL is in pain.
She is lucky that she has an amazing network of support to help her out, my son stayed in last night with her and her sister is staying tonight. Getting out of bed to go to the toilet totally wipes her out and causes huge amounts of pain. If I could take this away so she can enjoy the exhilaration of a new baby, I'd do it in a heartbeat.
So to all of you, thank you for all your kind words of congratulations and if I can ask one favour - send my girl all the positive energy and prayers you can tonight so that she can enjoy this beautiful little baby boy as soon as possible.
Chickie, this is for you - hope you're feeling better soon