Sunday, May 8, 2011

Mothers make the world go round

This day for me is about rejoicing in the joys that motherhood means for me. My journey as a mother has been one of tears, of pride, of joy and of frustration. It is also my last Mothers Day as just a 'mum', because next year I will be a mum and a nana. My three boys make my world a better place and I cherish each and every one of them and the 'men' they have become or will become.

Just realised this is another six words to describe my life - if any of you are visiting from Six Word Saturday - that post is the next one down. LOL

My family is very heavy in terms of males but two females who have joined the ranks to help my mother and I even up the imbalance, are my brothers fiance and my eldest's son's fiance. This is where I get confused though, neither are 'in-laws' as yet, which is quite honestly a term I dislike anyway but the word fiance also seems so impersonal.

My brothers partner and also the mother of my nephew has been a part of our family for years and is the sister I never had, she is also one of my best friends. Same with my son's fiance and soon to be the mother of my first grandchild, she's the daughter I always wanted. I would never have dreamed that someone so likeable and perfect for either my brother or my son existed.

So here's my dilemma - what should I call these wonderful female family members when referencing them in conversations, because the words fiance and future in-laws is way too impersonal for what they mean to me.

These two and my mother are the special 'mothers' in my life. They bring value to our family and are all a part of this marvellous thing called Mother's Day. I hate the commercialism of Mothers Day (as I do on any special day of the year), to me it's about love and respect. Family supporting each other and showing our appreciation.

My son and that special other part of him came for dinner last night - which turned out to be a lovely evening. My heart goes out to her because she is also not one of the 'glowing mothers-to-be' and is having a rough time. I hear you on that one hon, and I still went back for a second and third time (sucker for punishment?) Only nine weeks to go though - hang it there babe.

My brother and his other special counterpart went on a shopping mission for me yesterday, because they also have the benefit of living in the same town as my parents. The ability to pick something that I would have chosen is what makes her even more special.

Then of course there is my mum, without who, none of us would be celebrating Mothers Day today. Love you mum.

Well, as I write this, the youngest two men in my life (the mm's) are furiously mowing lawns and gardening, and then will move on to washing my car - I love Mothers Day, but am blessed because they do these things everyday. Then we're off out to dinner tonight with hubby's family to a Greek restaurant that I have been dying to try.

It's also a beautiful day in the blogosphere today, I have a feast of sites to visit thanks in part to Jessica at Writers Shadow who is hosting a blog carnival and also Cate at the marvellously popular Six Word Saturday.

Hope this day is a fantastic one for mothers everywhere (and tomorrow for those of you visiting from the other side of the world) My heart is also with those of you today who have lost a child or a mother, because I know that this must be a very difficult day for you.

One last thing, for those of you that haven't seen this poem via my 'In my Words' tab on my blog, Facebook page or through World Moms Blogs, please take the time to have a look - it sums up motherhood perfectly for me. Quite simply Mean Moms rule!

Cheers, Fi

When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts. A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child. ~ Sophia Loren, Women and Beauty


  1. Your dilemma is easy - do as I do and call them what they really are in our family - my daughter (the second one I never had but she's like that now) and grand-daughter (the one I've always wanted but only ever got grandsons)

    Without these two special additions to our family we would be missing a lot! I love all my girls!(and the boys too!)

    And yes, she did pick well on the Mother's Day present - I'll take a photo and send to you.


  2. This is lovely and beautiful. I am always so moved by close family relationships. Family is so amazing and beautiful and heart-rending when it's focal intention is loving each other. There's nothing else like it! My sister is in Kenya and has been for ages, and when I finally see her again it will have been 7 months ago, I can't wait! She's my best friend in all the world and I absolutely adore her! My mother too is not only my wonderful sensitive amazing mother but she is also a dear dear friend and thinking about how much I love her actually hurts my chest a little. Is that weird?
    Bless you and your family. I agree with you mam, just call them what they are in your heart. :] xx

  3. You're both right - call them what's in my heart.

    Catie Eliza - I understand the hurt in your chest and no I don't think it's wierd at all :)

  4. Lovely post, Fi! Happy Mother's Day to you... put your feet up and enjoy. :)

  5. The Happiest of Mother's Day to you too! Great 6WS!

  6. What a beautiful post, and wonderful tribute to the special women in your life! I hope you have a great Mother's Day ( one much better than your most memorable one!).


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