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I did tell you yesterday that I've been in a FUNK, well I'm also in the middle of having a few A-HA moments which aren't too gentle either.
I work in change management, I coach people regularly on the fact that you have to be the change you want to be and that a person will only accept change when their heart and soul is a part of it.
I spout about the changes I want in my life and while I talk the talk, I don't always walk the talk. In other words while I say and mean things in my heart and my mind, my actions (body) don't always agree.
I procrastinate, I make excuses, I avoid the truth and I lose myself in mindless blather. I read blog posts and e-books about avoidance and life and think 'oh my that's me, that's what I do' and I don't feel so alone because everyone else is also avoiding the truth and they're also not facing down challenges and achieving their goals.
I started this blog coming up almost two years ago (time flies when you're having fun) because I was stuck in a rut and needed to find my way out of a miserable job. I did find my way out, but not enough that I spread my wings and really flew. I just changed one rut for another and spend the rest of my time moaning and groaning about everything and everyone.
I read something yesterday (okay so I do learn some useful things from blog posts and e-books) which stated that those who criticise others are often the ones who are envious that they are not doing the same kind of things. Case in point - our 'new look' company magazine, written by someone new who has absolutely no writing experience or education.
In essence it's new, bright, shiny and visually appealing but there's a few things that are problems in my eyes. The reality is though, she's got the job and she will learn from her mistakes. I don't have the job and I too will learn from her mistakes, but I have no real basis for criticising other than envy. Well I do but it won't achieve anything - Argghhh!
Two fellow blogger friends have or are currently making BIG changes in their lives this year. How brave and inspiring you both are. I need to find that strength within myself. I know it exists, I've seen it once or twice over the years. It's just been a long while though since it really showed its face. My parents and my brother and sister-in-law have also done the big and brave and bold.
But then, I don't think change even needs to be big and bold, it just needs to be for the better.
Bravery and strength - Come out, come out, where ever you are. I'm almost ready for you.
No more criticising, moaning, procrastinating or any other negative non-productive like behaviour is allowed. I will not only talk the talk, I will walk the talk also. I have a couple of things in mind to focus on. Stick around, I may even share my triumphs in the months to come.
What do you need to change most and what's holding you back?
Cheers, Fi
Ya I hear ya, I've just been realizing that I've been doing my life all wrong and have been working on trying to change it. Not really sure how i'm doing but, I think i'm getting there. : )
ReplyDeleteJoseph - I think realising it is the first step
DeleteIt sounds like you're poised for something bold. These were great realizations and I admire you so much for putting them into action. Good luck!
ReplyDeleteEmily - I'm on the road to making changes, thanks for the encouragement
DeleteI think we all feel like hypocrites at times. I know I do, anyway. I don't take care of myself the way I encourage others to do. I KNOW that I need to eat and sleep well in order to be able to give to my family, but I just can't sometimes.
ReplyDeleteAnother example is teaching my students time management skills when lately if it wasn't for the last minute nothing would get done. I'm distracted and unproductive, but I lecture my students to pay attention to their homework and do a good job.
I'm working on some big changes in life, and it took a lot to get there. I think fear is one of the biggest obstacles. Even if a change is for the better it's still change.
Karen - I think you have some of the biggest changes and I am in awe of what you're coping with.
DeleteFear has the potential to bring us undone but it's all about staying strong and true to ourselves. Best of luck with your changes
Change is a process, you should know that. Not something that can typically happen over night. Many steps to travel. But you do have to take that first step to put things in motion. That is what we are doing by downsizing. This is step one of many new adventures on the horizon. You can make the change too. If you can dream it, you can do (remember). You just have to make that leap. I have faith in you. A lot of people have faith in you, now you just have to have faith in yourself. Talk to you soon my friend.
ReplyDeleteJenn - all these are words I repeat daily, strange how it is when the shoe is on your own foot :-)
DeleteThanks for believing in me
It's taken me seven years to get to this point, so don't be too hard on yourself, Fi. Also, just start. Move your body in the direction of the computer and begin to write. Start and then plan. It's the real secret which no one seems to have cottoned on to. x
ReplyDeleteStart and then plan - the simplest words are often the hardest - but that's my aim Karyn.
DeleteThanx x